A British woman has revealed she blames herself for her marriage breaking down after she agreed to have sex with her husband just once every two years.
Sara Collins, 52, explained that while she and her ex-husband started out with very active sex life in their early 20s, the amount of intimacy slowly decreased over their 28-year marriage.
Sara discovered her husband of 28 years and the father to their three children was cheating after seeing a comment on his Instagram post.
Back in July 2019, Sara’s husband Graham uploaded a photo of an empty plate after polishing off a vegan breakfast at a local cafe. He captioned the snap ‘yummy’.
“I noticed my husband, Graham, had posted a picture of his empty plate on Instagram, having polished off a vegan breakfast at a local cafe. He pronounced it ‘yummy’ and, underneath in the comments, a woman had written her agreement that yes, it was ‘yummy.’ Curious, I clicked on her profile — and my life fell apart.”
As she scrolled through the woman’s profile, she saw images that connected her husband to the other woman. And when she “recognized my husband’s handwriting,” she knew then and there that things were going to be bad for her and her relationship.
“I confronted Graham that evening, and he admitted it was his writing. He told me he had been seeing this woman for four months. I asked if they were sleeping together, and he said yes. And what’s more, he said he’d never been happier. It was an earth-shattering, humiliating, and gut-wrenching night, one I will never forget. And yet I know a large part of the fault for his infidelity rested with me.”
Sara said that their sex life ended following a traumatic Caesarean section in 2008, which caused her to lose all confidence in her body.
She explained that when Graham attempted to initiate intimacy after this, she rejected him and things got to the point where she wouldn’t even let him see her naked. While the couple did finally have sex two years later, she said it was ‘over as quickly as it started’.
However, Sara said as her then-husband was such an understanding person, she thought that he would happily accept their new, sexless marriage.
But she realized that wasn’t the case when, upon discovering his affair, she said: “I pointed out he was throwing away a 28-year marriage for sex, and he told me that we hadn’t had a marriage for a long, long time.”
Now, Sara is full of regret over the situation, revealing that while her ex-husband’s affair didn’t last, he is a ‘catch’ for his age and is seeing a new woman who she describes as ‘lovely.’